A season of hope may require help for many in Yazoo County

By REV. ROYCE LOTT,

With the onset of the holiday season, many have thoughts of grandeur as they recall their favorite family Thanksgiving meal or Christmas morning memory. However, for some, even a thought of the impending holiday season brings anxiety, fear, and for a few, even grief. . . Thankfully, in Yazoo County there are a number of resources to help those who find “The most wonderful time of the year”, instead the most dreaded time of the year. Surprising to many, my little office in Satartia has a fairly steady traffic flow when it comes to people with challenging life/heart issues.

Regardless of the geographic location, there are people in need everywhere, emotionally and spiritually.  With that acknowledgement, I wish to share a bit of insight for you to ponder. It may well be that your circumstances need the level of help provided only by a psychiatrist who can provide the support of beneficial medications.  For others, the heart issues are greater than the mental challenges, and so their need requires a different kind of help. Let me direct you by asking and answering a question. The bottom line is this!  Don’t fight the battle alone . . .

Do I need a Therapist, a Mentor, or a Coach? What is the Difference?

Coaching is similar to counseling in the sense that it is helping someone get to where they want to go in life. Counseling tends to help more with topics that have a tendency to have a more negative connotation such as anxiety, depression, marital conflict and many other issues, whereas coaching has more to do with positive topics such as developing endurance, being courageous, strength building and accomplishing dreams. Counseling methods tend to be more focused on approach and technique, family history and healing from past hurts. Coaching has a tendency to focus more on helping an individual accomplish growth in a specific area.  The heart of a coach takes learning their skills with a more passionate approach, in hopes to pass on the flame; whereas counselors learn technique such as listening, probing and genograms to provide healing to wounds. Coaches are allowed to be more personable, whereas Therapist's will likely have a more professional approach.

Mentoring is imparting what God has given one man to another, some people need a mentor. Coaching assists in drawing out the God given giftings that are placed in an individual. A mentor guides one with lesser experience usually in the knowledge and field that the mentor is working in.  The person being guided is usually younger than the mentor and gains from their mentor’s expertise. 

Mentoring usually takes a lot of time, energy and commitment and strong relationships are built upon mentorship.  These types of relationships are usually organic and evolve over a long period of time.

Christian coaching is different from just plain discipleship. Discipleship is primarily about helping others grow in their spiritual walk and in their faith.  The main goal for creating disciples is to fill the great commission (Mt 28:16-20).  The variance lies within the fact that while Christian coaching does draw from the word, it is not always coaching’s main focus, but it uses the word to help sharpen individuals and assist them in reaching their goals.

Christian Life Coaching is distinctive from secular life coaching because the secular does not take into account the model and example of Christ Jesus.  Regular Coaching is the art and practice of enabling individuals and groups from moving where they are to where they want to be. Christian coaching is the art and practice of helping individuals and groups move from where they are to where God wants them to be and helping them map out a plan to get there. The Christian coach strives to help people practice Romans 12:2 which states, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect” (ESV).  The call of a Christian coach is a call to higher standard for themselves personally because they must insure that their own personal relationship with God is in alignment so that they will have and effective impact on the people that they coach, and in turn transforming lives. All the above relationships are necessary, one just must assess what they are personally trying to accomplish and select the appropriate help depending on their own personal needs.  If we at Life Coach South/Sold Out Ministries, Inc. may be of service to you during the holiday season or as 2019 unfolds, please do not hesitate to contact Brother Royce at 601-668-4584 or via email.  Life Coach South provides programmatic help, mentorship, coaching, and pastoral counsel and has an office in Satartia. -  *Special thanks to my associate, Alison Rhodes Gentry for her collaboration on this article. 

For the Cause of Christ, Brother Royce

*Alison Rhodes Gentry is a Life Coach South team member based in Houston, TX, with an undergraduate degree in Psychology and a Masters in Human Services, with an emphasis on Marriage and Family, both from Liberty University.

Contact Rev. Royce Lott at broroyce1@gmail.com